- 1 How to achieve a cool and best personality? Here’s why? 2021
- 1.1 So what is the best personality?
- 1.2 What’s the real meaning of the best personality?
- 1.3 I have to get rid of this disability
- 1.4 What’s the real meaning?
- 1.5 You are desperate for people’s attention.
- 1.6 How do I become different?
- 1.7 Evolve and be better every day.
- 1.8 Have a strong sense of self-belief.
- 1.9 How do you do that?
How to achieve a cool and best personality? Here’s why? 2021
We all want to be cool. We want to be cool because coolness is a quality that attracts a lot of people, and we have an inherent want to be accepted, approved, and light by others. But a lot of people think they aren’t cool, so they come up with two solutions.
1) The problem is with my personality, so I have to change it. 2) I should start copying the behavior and tricks of people who were regarded as cool.
So what is the best personality?
So what is cool behavior? Well, there are two definitions of this word, one was created by television and movies and the other has got to do with reality. We are mostly fascinated by the first definition, not realizing that it’s stupid, after all, it comes from characters in movies intended to make you think that way.
Nevertheless, people want to be that, because one, humans are very impressionable which is a nice way of saying they are dumb, and two, we want to be liked very badly.
What’s the real meaning of the best personality?
So let’s talk about this first definition of coolness. In attempts to show a charismatic protagonist, most often what the writers do is write superheroes without superpowers. This is how the best personality looks like: he is a smart-mouthed guy who is accepted by everybody, gets the girl, gets several girls, is popular, has good-looking friends, is a hoot at parties and events, always charming and manipulative, knows the right things to say, seduces people, and is rich and successful at what he does. That’s your typical protagonist in widely popular shows and movies.
I have to get rid of this disability
When people see such characters in TV shows being widely loved, they get the idea that if we copied them, we will be loved and celebrated as well. And that’s how we get generations and generations of people just trying to imitate celebrities. The biggest impact this fantasy has caused is upon people who are shy and introverted.
When they see this, they think: I’m not like that at all, which means if I want to succeed and prosper in life, I have to get rid of this disability called being shy and introverted, or else I’ll die single. And from that, they call these fictional personality extroverts. Now mind you, this has nothing to do with the actual personality traits of an extrovert: this is simply what they make themselves believe, and from this stems the need to change their best personality and become extroverts. This is the first definition of coolness and its impact.
What’s the real meaning?
Now, let’s talk about the second definition which has got everything to do with reality. Coolness as quality is generally attributed to people who are doing something different in life which you think is cool behavior.
The first thing we get from that sentences is: doing something which you think is cool behavior. So right away coolness is a subjective view of others. You don’t get to decide if you’re cool or not, others decide that for you – that’s how it works. It’s a perception of you held by others.
The second thing you get is: different. Since it is others who get to decide what you are doing is different or not, your belief does not count. So in case, you tell yourself: I am different — that makes you a fool. In case you tell yourself:
You are desperate for people’s attention.
I want to be different — that tells that you are desperate for people’s attention, and after learning that people quite like those who are different, you started telling yourself that you want to be different as well. And in attempts to become different, what people start doing is copying others, which never works out because
1) You aren’t able to pull it off because it is not yours and 2) You get found out.
How do I become different?
Now, you might think, wait, if I can’t copy or imitate others, then how do I become different; after all, I want cool behavior. I’m sure you’ve heard of these two words be yourself, to which most you would reply: I don’t want to be myself, I hate myself. Being different in itself means being unique. Different in meaning is something unique, that’s why it’s different. The phrase ‘be yourself’ means you are unique. But the reason you are not cool is that being different requires you to upgrade that uniqueness which you haven’t done yet.
Evolve and be better every day.
On the contrary, you are wasting all your time copying others. You are both morons. In superhero movies and Shonen animes, two things are strikingly common: one the main character or hero at the beginning of this story is full of shortcomings: he could be naive, immature, inexperienced, hot-headed, arrogant, or insecure, shy, scared, etc. The point is, in time, they evolve.
Have a strong sense of self-belief.
The second most common thing is: they have a strong sense of self they never lose. Throughout their hardships and training, they eventually become the true best version of themselves. In superhero jargon, they’ve developed their superpowers and overcome the flaws in their personality against all odds by facing and conquering their shortcomings and hardships.
Not even once do they try to leave their best personality and become someone they think is cool. You are exactly like them in their first stages – full of shortcomings and weaknesses. The only difference is, you haven’t upgraded. Being introverted or extroverted is irrelevant. To become a cool behavior personality, you need to hone that unique ability that people are going to think is cool, it may not actually even be cool to you because it is yours. People think you are different, you are simply doing your thing. But instead of finding your thing, you are busy trying to be God knows what.
Think of a story in which the hero doesn’t learn anything, doesn’t evolve, and instead starts copying others to find some attention. That’s you, craving to be an extrovert!
How do you do that?
Do you want to be a cool behavior personality? Upgrade the uniqueness of your personality. How do you do that? Simple, aside from biological needs, which are s*x, safety, and food. You will find your mind wandering towards things that are capturing your attention. Whatever it may be, that is your thing. Now you can get distracted by the first definition of cool and try to be a macho man, or you can listen to your unique self calling out to that thing.
That thing is going to be your superpower. Millions of people ignore it, they’re more interested in trying to get laid or look like somebody. This is why there are only a few cool people in the true sense of the word in this world. And in all those people, you recognize a common theme. They are very true to their original and best personality and have mastered a thing that makes them different.
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